When Penetration Becomes a Bonus: The Art of Playing (Gently) in Lesbian Love

Let’s be honest with each other: in lesbian sexuality, penetration is a bit like champagne at brunch.
Absolutely not essential… but wonderfully delightful when you’re in the mood.
In the lesbian kama sutra, there are no sacred rules, just infinite ways to touch, love, and explore one another. Penetration is a bonus, a game, a playground for curiosity, not an obligation. And definitely not a performance.

Softness, consent, and a slow tempo: the foundation of all penetrative pleasure

When we talk about a dildo, a strap-on harness, or a good old godemichet, the key word isn’t “depth,” “speed,” or “acrobatics.”
It’s: soft-ness.
Penetration in lesbian love is something to savor like a slow dance: you take your time, you breathe, you listen. You say what you like. You say what you don’t. You adjust. You laugh. You try. You try again. That’s true intimacy: a blend of desire, tenderness, and freedom.

The magic trio: dildo, strap-on harness, and lubricant (the right one!)

To make the experience comfortable *physically and emotionally* you need to choose your tools wisely.
First, the dildo: realistic or non-realistic, small or more generous, textured, smooth, soft, firm… there’s no right or wrong choice, only what fits your desires in the moment.
Then, the strap-on harness: an accessory that should never slip, twist, or make you feel like you’re gearing up for a hiking trip. A good harness is one that flatters you, makes you feel sexy, and fits your body perfectly. (Which is exactly why I designed mine 😏).
Finally, the lube: water-based first, with or without fragrance depending on your preferences, as natural as possible, and compatible with your dildo(s). We’re aiming for comfort and zero risk.

Start small, simple, and in trust

The best way to ease into penetration in lesbian sexuality is to go without pressure or bravado. Start small: a slimmer dildo, a simple harness, a gentle lubricant. Explore what feels good for you and for her. Notice how the body responds, how the energy moves, how pleasure builds.
And then, only then, can you explore more dangerous sensations: longer, wider, more textured, or something entirely different. The playground is endless, but emotional safety is sacred.

The real secret: Uncomplicate it, play, and laugh

Lesbian penetration doesn’t need to be intense, complicated, or choreographed.
It’s a game. An exploration. Just one of many ways to express desire. As long as there’s listening, tenderness, and lots of freedom, there is no “right” or “wrong” move. And to live this experience with confidence: to feel good in your body, in your role, in your movement changes everything.
A good harness, a good dildo, good lube, and a good mindset… and suddenly everything feels different.

In short

Give yourself the best conditions so your exploration of penetration stays soft, free, light… and deliciously unapologetic.
Because lesbian love deserves to be lived with pleasure, respect, and a joyful dose of curiosity.